I’ve noticed a trend with my blog.
My website tends to be somewhere I rant, rave and moan.
Which, is all well and good; one of the main reasons I write is because I can’t afford therapy. Writing for me is catharsis. It’s somewhere I go to write about my thoughts, feelings and opinions and often, once I’ve finished writing, it’s like I’ve put something in a box and put that box on the top shelf to be forgotten about. It’s a release.
The problem is, my blog is littered with negativity. A lot of what I dump here is quite pessimistic. Yeah, it might be humourous at times and make someone laugh (surely there’s one person that laughs – aside from my Mum?) but I don’t want it all to be negative.
Often, I’ll rant about noises I hate, things that irritate me, people who get on my (lack of) tits (not literally). But maybe, just maybe I need to inject a bit of positivity into proceedings. An expletive filled tirade is often good for the soul but so is optimism and appreciation. Who am I? I don’t even recognise myself right now.
Thus, I’ve decided to list 10 qualities I admire in a person. Personality traits that make me fall in love with someone and want to be their friend.
If you have 5 of these then go you and if you have all 10 then please can you make yourself known so we can become BFF’s and do fun things together like bitch and moan and get drunk? Hopefully this won’t read like my profile on an online dating site. I’ve done that before and ended up with a bloke who won’t marry me.
I used to like arrogance. Arrogant men were a turn on for me. You know, those proper cocksure bastards who’d eat themselves were they chocolate. Now I just think they’re morons. And likely hiding some sort of insecurity. Previous experience with this type of man proves me right.
I am instantly drawn to someone who when they enter a room they command a presence. They’re comfortable with who they are and what they do and don’t seek others approval. That is attractive.
I love learning from people.
I’m not the most intelligent person, especially when it comes to maths and science and all those important subjects that are supposed to get you through life a little easier. I know a little about a lot but not a lot about anything really. Other than TOWIE and similar Reality TV shows. Probably shouldn’t admit that publicly but it’s a bit late now.
If someone has taught me something, opened my mind to something new or we’ve engaged in a debate then I’ll always remember that person.
You can also file under here emotional intelligence. Those who are fine-tuned with their emotions and feelings and express themselves well. I like those people.
If someone I care about has a problem, then I take on that problem and want to try and solve it. Likewise, if someone I care about has fallen out with someone or taken a dislike to a person then that person is now disliked by me. I’m not very good at forgiving and I’m even worse at forgetting. I don’t need my corner fighting but I like to know that someone has got my back, won’t slag me off behind it or stick a knife in it when I’m not looking.
Because nobody likes a show off do they? Yes it’s amazing that you’ve got a size 8 body with abs you could crack nuts on and hair that Jennifer Aniston would be jealous of. Not to mention the high flying career where you’re taking home an annual salary that is more than my house is worth. And, lest we forget the husband who worships the ground your Christian Louboutin’s walk on, but do I need it rammed down my neck twice daily?
No, no I do not.
I love hearing stories about random acts of kindness. Although, the cynic in me thinks if you filmed it or took a photo of said random act of kindness and send it to the press then you’re probably doing it for your own gains. But hey, that’s just me being a cynical old cow.
There have been so many tragic incidents this year, horrendous atrocities that have left the nation lost for words. Then, amidst all the sadness, the tears and the anger, you hear or read of a story that restores your faith in humans.
The world can often be a frightening place. It often feels like there’s evil all around. But we need to remember that for every bad person there’s plenty of good people doing their thing too.
I love bubbly people. People who are full of life and just exude energy all the time.
I used to be like that but then I got older, bitter and exhausted.
I need to believe in someone. I can’t stand fake people. Those individuals who change their opinions to suit a situation as often as the wind changes direction do not sit well with me. I can see through them like a crystal clean pane of glass.
You know the type I mean, those people who will slag someone off to you in one breath then crawl right up their back passage the following day. Just because it suits them. Because they like to be popular and universally liked. THINK ABOUT YOUR INTEGRITY GODDAMN IT. And remember I won’t forget what you said, that shit is ingrained in my brain until the day I die.
It’s the best policy right?
I need to know where I stand with someone. I can’t deal with people who pay you lip service, it doesn’t do anyone any favours and will just leave me unable to trust you.
I’m not saying be hurtful with your honesty. Everyone can do it in an upfront, non-offensive way. There is a fine line between speaking your mind and just being an arsehole.
However, I don’t want to be second guessing a situation. If you’re thinking it then just say it. Then we all know where we stand.
I love it when someone shows passion about something. I like it when someone is explaining something to me and I can see how excited they are about it. It could be politics, current affairs, a television programme or even what they had for tea. If you’re enthusiastic about it then I will be too. I want to believe in what you’re telling me, feel what you’re feeling and learn and appreciate what you believe in.
This is sounding like a bloody job description isn’t it. With a list of “nice to haves”.
If you can make me laugh out loud then I will likely love you forever. I’m lucky to have some hilarious people in my life. People who when I’m in their company make me worry for my weak pelvic floor muscles and remind me that I probably need to invest in a pack of industrial strength TENA lady.
I love someone who has a dry sense of humour, isn’t easily offended (I only wish I had the time to scroll through Twitter on the lookout for something to take offence to) and can take the piss out of themselves. If you can do all 3 then we’ll get on like a house on fire.
Being confident in yourself, knowing your weaknesses and being able to laugh at yourself is such an admirable quality to have. I can’t stand people who are so up their own arses they can see what they had for breakfast. Ain’t nobody got time for that shit.
Prior to writing this post I asked my Twitter followers for the qualities they admire in a person. Humour, loyalty and kindness featured heavily. But also a few others I thought it prudent to include.
To be fair, doughnuts are important.
I like silly.
I believe in science, I just don’t think I’m clever enough for it!
I really wish I was more patient.